Yes, this is often a difficult topic to discuss and may have certain traditional taboos associated with it. However, you should discuss and agree (as early as possible) on how to manage the situation. Where possible include the family member who is ill/frail so their wishes are taken into account regarding issues as place of death, resuscitation status, burial arrangements etc. Where they lack capacity, decisions should be made in the best interest of the family member rather than personal opinions. By having a clear plan of action, care will be better coordinated, and this may also prevent additional stress at the time of death.